I'm a Mom

So the other day I was browsing the interwebz, as I've been known to do. You know how it is... Sometimes you're messing around, looking at this and than when, BAM. You see a post or something that slaps you right in the face and makes your blood boil. Here's a little paraphrasing of what I saw:

I cringe every time I see "Mom","SAHM", or "Proud Mommy" in the career portion of friends' profiles.

{Side note: I'm fairly certain this person doesn't have children, so I think that is a contributing factor here.}

I've also seen people say that they're disappointed when they see "mom" or something similar in people's description of themselves. To me, this is incredibly insulting. Why? I'll tell you why.

While I'm not getting paid money to stay home and take care of my daughter, I am getting "paid" in many other ways. It may not always be giggles and smiles around here, but I think it is a blessing to be able to stay home with her. I get to see her every day - to play with her, to know her, to bond with her. And yes, I have to deal with diapers, spit up, meltdowns, teething and whatever else is thrown my way. Working moms have to deal with all this stuff too (and glory, I can't even imagine), but other than house stuff, Charlotte is my main focus and I love it.

I'm getting "paid" in smiles, full tummies, fun days, cuddles, and all kinds of other things. This morning as Joe was leaving, Charlotte said, "bye-bye, Dada." The pride and joy I feel from those simple, sweet words is more to me than any perk a job could offer. And if I did have a job? I might've missed out on that moment.

Maybe it's not a "career," but it is my life. I don't take well to people looking down on me for the choices I've made, especially when those choices are what is best for me and my family

I don't understand why people feel the need to judge others for their life choices. So what if in my FB/Twitter/IG profile it says "Proud SAHM?" What difference does that make to you? It doesn't mean I'm uneducated or without ambition. So what if my goals and dreams are of and for my baby girl and future kiddos? What in the world is so wrong with me - or any other mother - staying home, nurturing, and educating her children? To me, that is the most important thing I could possibly do. 

I know it isn't every mother's calling to stay home full time with her children. Some moms work, some moms don't. However, I do know that it is my calling to stay home with Charlotte and whatever other children we're blessed with. I believe that it's my calling to homeschool, whenever the time comes. I believe that is what's best for my children and my family. Not everyone is able to do this, and that's okay!

Please, for the love of all things good, don't judge SAHMs. We may not work for a living, but we do work that is just as important - maybe even more so. 


  1. We do work for a living -- we work one of the hardest jobs out there. But also one of the most rewarding. I like to say "I may not bring home an actual paycheck, but I do have a JOB!" when people get snippy with me.

    I'm sorry you have to deal with people like this, too. It wasn't that long ago that mom's staying home was the way life was. It was a given. And you know what? No one is perfect, but when you look back on those generations, they weren't such spoiled bratty kids as some are these days!!

  2. I'm not a mom, but I have a lot of admiration for stay-at-home moms! Being a SAHM is a lot of work, and it doesn't come with time-off, sick days, etc. I don't know if that life will be for me once I have children, but I admire women who stay at home with their kids.

  3. Love that quote!!

    People usually give me a weird look when I say I'm getting a college degree but I won't really mind never using it for a career because I want to stay house when I have children.

  4. I love this post! I completely agree!

  5. Growing up, my mom worked part time, so she was always at home with us after we got out of school. I LOVED being around her so much and I really think that's why we're so close today. I've been contemplating what to do when we move back to America (as far as work goes) and I don't think I'll be going back to work. I may look for some freelance jobs, but I want to stay home and be with my daughter. I'm so thankful I have that opportunity.