tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post4105170412260220032..comments2023-08-04T08:05:47.439-04:00Comments on Simply Sarah : Save the Drama for Your MamaSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02790252531946824600noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-88081120561338675132012-07-10T18:27:31.749-04:002012-07-10T18:27:31.749-04:00I am in a similar situation with my mother as well...I am in a similar situation with my mother as well. I have chosen to step back and try not to let it get to me. I let her have the relationship she wants with me. Meaning if she doesn't want to make the effort to see me then that's her choice. I deal with what I can and hang up the phone when it gets too much. I don't like the situation but I can't change much. If you ever wanna chat or talk about it let me know.Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06633862152372392695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-24204209801067363052012-06-23T16:35:59.145-04:002012-06-23T16:35:59.145-04:00Oh that sounds like a really tough spot. I'm s...Oh that sounds like a really tough spot. I'm sorry that the visit didn't go as you'd hoped. I think you are right though. It sounds like she came there more to be a tourist than anything else.Crazy Shenanigans-JMOhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03494603714481735184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-88448786905896937712012-06-12T14:05:30.198-04:002012-06-12T14:05:30.198-04:00I experienced almost the same thing when we lived ...I experienced almost the same thing when we lived in Maryland. Granted we didn't have a child. But my family came and visited for like 4 or 5 days and wanted to do something EVERY single day.. the whole day. There was no down time, relaxing or not running. I asked them if they came to visit me or the DC area? This of course caused a blowout argument between my Dad and I.. where I essentially told them they shouldn't have come at all. The next morning things were back to normal. For me, it is better to do that. I don't like confronting family issues head on. I know they love me, and I will always love them. So we have the arguments, we reflect on what was said and then we move forward. We don't discuss it as it just drags things out. I don't know how your family system works.. but for me that was the best option. I'll be thinking about you girl.Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06854302342303748377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-50077122722452953602012-06-12T10:02:47.282-04:002012-06-12T10:02:47.282-04:00aww im so sorry. my mom also does this with me a l...aww im so sorry. my mom also does this with me a lot. when i first got married i lived 2 sec down the road from my in laws and heck i had never lived outside my families home so of course i wanted my own independence and that made my mom mad i was close to my MIL until i had my first kid. she pulled the whole i raised four kids and my way is best and that didn't fly well with me. fast forward to now, a 4 yr old and a baby due in 2 months and my mom gets all bent out of shape about everything. i have a friend that lives by my in laws that does free ultrasounds for me all the time. and she was so nice one day to bring the machine over to my in-laws since she was on that side of town. my mom got mad that my MIL saw the baby and she hasn't on a ultrasound. really!!!! she brings it up non stop and it drives me crazy. then when we named our little girl she actually told me how much she hated the name, how un cute it is and how she should name my kids since i cant pick a pretty name. i mean wow, thanks mom. after i pretty much said thats her name get over it, she still told me names she heard of that were pretty. <br><br>im chalking this all up to her age(late 40s) and she is def losing that filter she used to have. it doesn't help that we are always together. since my hubby deploys in a few days we live with them in a downstairs apartment thing to save some money and in case i need help with 2 kids while he is gone. but she just tries to run my life and everything in it. so dont worry your def not the only one. and i just ignore it all, or i try to without snapping back and being totally mean. im sorry your going through all this too. it make it so hard.. ill be praying for you and if you find any good tips with dealing with it please share them, i know i could use themheatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05315114628940779935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-88209495076027938622012-06-11T15:40:13.966-04:002012-06-11T15:40:13.966-04:00Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry. I was really hop...Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry. I was really hoping this would be a good time of bonding for you guys, with Charlotte to consider, but honestly, there's only so much you can do when the other person isn't willing. I'm sorry. I'm so glad you've got Joe to have your back.JGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03116405895683599572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-75235220302781122922012-06-11T13:41:57.346-04:002012-06-11T13:41:57.346-04:00I don't have anything wise to tell you about w...I don't have anything wise to tell you about what you can do to make things better with your parents because, to me, it seems like all the issues are theirs. She should've remembered what it was like to be a new parent and how difficult it is to get out and about (that does get easier btw) and the fact that she asked you to rent a car?! Seriously. Wow. I'm sorry. Thank God you have such a good relationship with your in-laws because you clearly don't have your family the way you want/need.Brianna Reneehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18216921132224321164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-20980200137676535492012-06-11T11:19:06.405-04:002012-06-11T11:19:06.405-04:00That's just frustrating. First of all, 4 days?...That's just frustrating. First of all, 4 days? Really? Second, it's nearly impossible to do all that stuff with a baby! That's disappointing. I'm sorry :(Chantalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09543581308363689982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-60996906505300082682012-06-11T09:24:55.266-04:002012-06-11T09:24:55.266-04:00She sounds almost exactly like my in laws! They ca...She sounds almost exactly like my in laws! They came out here for 48 hours, on their way to a week long vacation elsewhere. And they want to do touristy things and hiking. It was the first/only time they had met A (she was 6 months old). If it were me, I would have put the priority on spending time with my granddaughter.Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14512593790820167149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-46352796702927548522012-06-11T08:50:21.965-04:002012-06-11T08:50:21.965-04:00I can't believe she asked you to rent her a ca...I can't believe she asked you to rent her a car! Like you don't have anything else to pay for with a brand new baby! <br><br>I have the same issues with my family. I attempt to focus on the positive in my dad, but he makes it SO difficult! Know how ya feel! Hope things with your mom get better over time :)hmbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07241287611810373049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-83594117778974381392012-06-11T08:46:37.326-04:002012-06-11T08:46:37.326-04:00Girl, hang in there! You do NOT need the stress of...Girl, hang in there! You do NOT need the stress of this. I know things with family can be more stressful than anything else. Your family (you, Joe, and Charlotte) is the most important thing - at the sake of all else put that first (after God, of course). I know you want your relationship with your mom to be mended, and hopefully one day it will be. All you can do is take action based on how God is leading you and leave the rest. Don't stress about it, think about it, or worry about it. I know it is hard to do, but just let it roll off. God is in control and if you are acting according to His word than you have nothing to worry about. Realize that you can only do your part, not your mom's too. I'm so sorry her visit was difficult and not helpful. I am grateful you have Joe though, and that sweet little bundle to give you joy! I will be praying for you guys. Love you!Annahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05928476378189551633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-16510619892634409802012-06-10T23:20:18.014-04:002012-06-10T23:20:18.014-04:00I really don't have any advice for you, but I ...I really don't have any advice for you, but I know that it's hard to not be super close to your parents. My relationship with my parents is getting better but I think I'll always have to work on it especially living so far away. Praying for you!Rebekahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18164589484233067509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-39896161759414750202012-06-10T21:49:03.478-04:002012-06-10T21:49:03.478-04:00It's kind of odd for me to read this ONLY beca...It's kind of odd for me to read this ONLY because I read so many blogs or know so many people who are SO close to their moms, that they can't understand this kind of relationship.<br>(((hugs to you)))<br>I have a much better relationship with my parents when it's from afar and we don't talk that much even though that's kind of sad to say.<br><br>I will be thinking of you and I hope your situation can get better for Charlotte's sake!!Marinewife1111 {Marcella}http://www.blogger.com/profile/02567040738526028857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6787213069445299547.post-5361666746369714202012-06-10T21:36:17.948-04:002012-06-10T21:36:17.948-04:00I know exactly what you are going through. I have ...I know exactly what you are going through. I have been dealing with this with my family for the past 4 years. I hate coming home to Vegas because both our families are here and it's always a fight. I pray for comfort for both you and Joe with this situation. I hope that you get the answers that you are searching for.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.com